Distorted Thinking Styles: Do You Wear One of These?

Your passion for fashion may be an attractive attribute in creating your personal style, but distorted thinking is a trend which needs to end now.
Do you suffer from distorted thinking?
What are the effects it is having on you?
Most important, how do you get rid of it if you have it?
 

Is Your View of You Distorted?

The conversations you have in your head are the most important meetings you will ever attend. Everything you say to yourself on the inside, is what you eventually express and manifest on the outside.
If you attract who you are, you must be very careful about what thoughts you allow to remain in your mind. Kill them before they have time to take root to grow a negative behavior.  Early diagnosis always accompanies a more positive prognosis.
Do you ever hear yourself saying something like:
  • “If my husband really cared about my happiness, he would take on more responsibility with the house and kids.”
  • “I feel like such a failure, I’ll never achieve my dream.”
  • “If I didn’t grow up in such a dysfunctional family, I wouldn’t be depressed.”
Good News! You are not alone if any of these examples sound vaguely familiar.  Little nasty voices of self-talk in your head, can be replaced.  You have the power!   
 
 
 

Self-Talk can be Transformed

You are only as sick as your secrets, so being aware this conversation exists, is the first step towards getting rid of it.
“The authors of the Relaxation and Stress Reduction Workbook note that this type of thinking is characterized by ‘repetitive and intrusive thoughts that are unrealistic, unproductive, and often anxiety producing.”
You may have had a belief system which functioned to keep you safe in “survival mode” when you were younger, but this formula is not a winning equation towards healthy living in your adulthood. In fact, it is destroying and blocking you from claiming your hearts desires! Get rid of it!

I Can Do This!

You need to be programmed positive in the present. Accept and understand the negative programming you got in the past, which you need to remove today, is not your fault you caught.  Reinforce by your family situations or societal expectations, you can rise above your problem thinking.
What are the effects of these negative thoughts? Self-doubt, fears, or even phobias. None of these are good, and this is just the short list!
OK – you don’t want to feel this negativity, which means you have to get rid of the thoughts which create them, so your behavior can change for the better.
The Fabulous Four Cure for Distorted Thinking:
1. Identify the negative emotion you are feeling
2. Identify the situation which triggered this emotion
3. Identify the distorted thought
4. Create the opposite emotion in the same situation with a kind thought.
3 I’s (Identify) + 1 C (Create) = The New Amazing Happy Me!

Happiness Island, Peace Beach, Serenity Sand

Let’s take one of the examples provided, and apply this cure for distorted thinking.  This will help you begin the transformation in becoming the magnificent happy person you were created to be.
“If I didn’t grow up in such a dysfunctional family, I wouldn’t be depressed.”
1. I am feeling angry, resentful, tense and stressed.
2. My daughter/son just told me I was a terrible mother/father because I wouldn’t let him/her stay out past midnight.
3. Because my child told me I was a terrible parent in that specific situation, I feel like my entire life of being a parent is a failure, which makes me feel even more depressed. This feeling reinforces the belief I have no hope of change because this feeling comes from my horrible childhood, which I can never go back to the past to make better.
4. There are many people who have had worse pasts than me, who are happy productive people today, living in healthy relationship with their families. I can be happier today because these past experiences have given me more compassion, better discernment, and deeper experience to make better choices in the present. These better choices I make, give me power to create the life I want. I am no longer a victim to other peoples behavior!
Practice this process with events and emotions which are easy to identify.  Like anything else, when repeated with practice, the more easy the process will become to apply in more complex situations.

Your New Theme Song!

Surround yourself in transformation. Associate with people who are seeking to accomplish the same change as you, and you will experience your positive results more quickly and efficiently.
Positive energy is a fragrance worth wearing everyday, for any and all occasions in your life.
No thought is ever final, no feeling an absolute fact. It’s all a process.
Your personal passion for positive fashion, never felt so fun! 
 
 

Because You're Worth It!

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Stepping into YOUR Spectacular!

Stepping into Your Spectacular!  

(as seen in All Books Review; Inpsiration;  Words of Wisdom)

You crave it, seek it, attempt to keep it, and never tire of acquiring more of it.

 

Jump In!

Your happiness!

The happiness you dream to achieve in becoming your brilliant best. Your most creative self. Expressing the essence of who you are from heart to hand, in a brilliant package of blinding super fine shine. What could be better than this?!

Stepping into your spectacular guarantees happiness, because whenever you express your passionate desires, you are keeping the promise to be who you are authentically created to be.

There is no right or wrong to being you. Is your left leg wrong, and your right leg right? Or is it the right leg is wrong, and the left leg is right?

No, both legs are different for a reason, and you don’t argue with your feet as you walk to where you want to go. You accept that the differences in each leg assists you in getting to your desired location.

Stepping into your spiritual creative spectacular is much the same way.
You need all elements of your passions, dreams, and inspirations to help you move towards your greatness.

Your expression of this magnificence is as unique as your very own face. Happiness is a one-of-a-kind find, designed just for you.

If you have a nagging desire to accomplish some goal, (maybe finish that book?) accept this feeling is not going away for a healthy reason. You must take a step forward and place action behind the emotion. One small step leads to one greater, with more momentum to fuel the next.

Stepping into your spectacular is the most unselfish action you could ever perform. The world needs you.

If you don’t become your very best, who will?

The Diamond of YOU!

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