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How to Forgive

October 18, 2011 By 3 Comments

How do I forgive? More specifically:  How do I forgive the unforgivable?

How do I Forgive?

I believe this is a universal question many of us struggle with. What about you?

I recently had the opportunity to participate in a Forgiveness Global TeleSummit hosted by Nancy Battye with 33 other speakers (click here for the details). The panel and listeners brought up a number of great questions and personal experiences I thought I would share with you.

Here are some highlights to help you heal and forgive.

Forgiveness is in the Will, not in the Feeling

Many people get stuck on being able to forgive because they mistakingly define forgiveness as an emotion instead of an action.

Forgiveness is NOT a feeling. Feelings are nice, and eventually the hope to be free from the emotional negative charge of what you have forgiven, is certainly a worthwhile byproduct of having forgiven. But.. it is not the first step in the process of forgiveness. The very first step is in your free will to make a choice to forgive.

So what do I have to do to forgive using my free will?

You have forgiven if you:

1.Wish no ill will or harm to the person who has treated you unjustly.

2.You pray or send englightenment to the person you are trying to forgive to change for the better – because their soul needs more help than yours.

3.Leave it to God or your Higher Power to resolve the issue in a manner of divine justice for the good of all involved.

Forgiveness is not your idea of making the wrong right, but allowing God to make the wrong right.

Self Forgiveness

Your ability to forgive someone else is a direct reflection of how much you are able to forgive yourself.

Consider the following scenario…

A perfect stranger in the street yells out your are stupid and ugly – how do you react? Probably without much emotion considering the source.

Now imagine the person you love most saying the exact same words to you. How do you feel now? Probably much different from the first scenario. 

Why?

The words were exactly the same – but your emotional response was completely different. The only deduction you can logically make is that it is more than the words which matter to you. It is not what is said – but the source of your emotional connection to the person who speaks to you, what their relationships means to you, what trigger they push in you from your past., and how you view yourself.

Salt only hurts when it hits an open wound. The fact you are in pain proves there is wound open which you need to heal.

When in Pain, Focus on:

1. What is the gut reaction teaching me? What do I need to learn about myself?

2. What is the wound I need to heal?

3. Be grateful for the gift of discovering the real issue and the opportunity to finally heal, so you can be emotionally free from it.

Don’t Obsess

Over thinking the problem, pain and past event does nothing except hurt you again.

If you don’t let go of this negativity, you must ask yourself these two questions:
“Why do I want to keep myself marinated in this poison of self destruction?”
Why do I not love myself enough to stop staying in the pain?”

Give up the hope of a better past.  Focus your precious energy on what you can control and change for the better.

Forgiveness begins with forgiving yourself. Trusting God more, and depending on yourself less. Listening to the whispers and warning signs God may be giving you in the silence of your prayer, or through other people.

Forgiveness is a process

You don’t put an acorn seed in the ground and expect a full grown 20 foot acorn tree to be looking back at you 20 minutes later! Why would you expect this unreasonable result from yourself?

Be patient with yourself, and focus on the size of your God and the great progress you have made. Not the size of your problem or how far you think you have to go.

“He who does not forgive digs two graves.” Chinese Proverb

 

 

Deb Scott, BA, CPC

Deb is Author of the 2 x National Award Winning Book The Sky is Green and The Grass is Blue - turning your upside down world right side up!, a Certified Professional Coach at Discover the Amazing YOU! Coaching, and host of the hit new Best People We Know Show! on Blog Talk Radio. Self Help Radio

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Stress Less & Enjoy More

May 2, 2011 By 5 Comments

Stress Less & Enjoy More: Self-Help Facts; Problems; Solutions

Do you want to stress less and enjoy your life more fully?  Consider these facts, if you’re still not sure.

Stress Facts

  • 75% of the general population experiences at least “some stress” every two weeks (National Health Interview Survey).
  • Every week, 95 million Americans suffer some kind of stress related symptoms for which they take medication.
  • The American Medical Association has noted that stress was the basic cause of more than 60 percent of all human illness and disease .
  • The stress hormone cortisol not only causes abdominal fat to accumulate, but it also enlarges individual fat cells, leading to what researchers call “diseased” fat.
  • Chronic stress floods the brain with powerful hormones that are meant for short-term emergency situations. Chronic exposure can damage, shrink, and kill brain cells.
  • Researchers “Nature Neuroscience” Ferguson and Magalhaes have discovered a biological link between stress, anxiedty and depression. The linking mechanism in the study involves the interaction between corticotropin releasing factor receptor 1 (CRFR1) and specific types of serotonin receptors (5-HTRs). The chemical connections is real.
  • Your body’s reaction (s) to negative stress can include but not limited to: anxiety, anger, fatiuge, dizziness, heacaches, chest pain, aches and pains, grinding of teeth, sexual difficulties, sleeping problems, cold sweaty palms, inability to concentrate, elevated blookd pressure, change in eating habits, indigestion and upset stomach.

Wow! If you’re thinking what I’m thinking, Stress is NOT something good to have in your life. But how do you get rid of stress? What can you do to remedy the disease? [Read more...]

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Heart – What is Your Heart Telling You?

February 25, 2011 By Leave a Comment

As featured in:  Best Ever YOU! Magazine

What is your heart telling you?

Your Heart Speaks!

You’ve heard it before. Doctors tell you to maintain a “healthy heart” to keep a healthy body. Your relationship has gone sour, and you talk to your family and friends about your “broken heart.” Therapist speak of your “heavy heart” catalyzing depression, and exercise trainers emphasize you won’t achieve your targeted weight until you perform aerobic exercise at your “target heart rate.” Even the Bible tells us to “guard your heart with the closest custody, for in it are the sources of your life.” Yes indeed, the heart is the universal symbol that speaks love in any language.

It would appear, the answers you most desire in your head, can only be discovered through the spiritual journey into your heart.

Heart Ache can be one of sadness or joy, but make no mistake, it can never be ignored. When you feel that tug in your heart – know in your head it’s a powerful prompt and call for you to take some immediate action.

If you have recently loss a loved one, you know what heartache does to your entire body in the grieving process. The sadness seems to embed itself into each blood cell pumping throughout your veins. Be gentle with yourself, for this is your call to heartfelt peace.

I <3 You

The freshness of a new found love will wrap your heart in an ache of euphoria -to the point you can’t think of anything else but your beloved.
Your mind will wander into daydreams of pleasant reminders with the one you love, automatically recycling the happiness of unending blissful joy.. Yes, your love ache can quickly become an addiction which sweeps you down the aisle of “I do – until death do us part.”

When you pray or meditate, you can only experience transformation through prayer from the heart. You must experience the words you speak, the affirmations you visualize, in order to generate any success in your ultimate transformation. Words are just empty vessels without value, if you don’t pour authenticity into the equation.

To be truly alive requires a functioning heart. You can’t take a breath without your heart. Your heart is the center of your being, the ultimate indicator of being human. Your heart is the greatest gift you can ever give to another, and the most powerful motivator in achieving your dream.

As you focus on tangible ways to improve the clinical health of your heart, don’t forget to incorporate creative ways to hear the messages your heart beats to speak to you.

Beauty & PeaceA heart filled with love and forgiveness is a medicine without any side effects, and a reliable cure for challenges even the blind can clearly see.

Deb Scott, BA, CPC is Author of the 2 x National Award Winning Book The Sky is Green and The Grass is Blue - turning your upside down world right side up!, a Certified Professional Coach at Discover the Amazing YOU! Coaching, and host of the hit new Best People We Know Show! on Blog Talk Radio.  Sign up for Debs Newsletter today!

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Celebrity Interview – Montel Williams and Deb Scott

February 20, 2011 By Leave a Comment

Man of Power and Women of Power!

Montel Williams and Deb Scott are interviewed by Award Winning Radio Host, Raven Blair Davis.

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Award Winning CNN and CBS Radio Host: Raven Blair Davis - “The Talk Show Maven” combines two unstoppable people of power in this amazing rare interview to inspire, motivate, and emPOWER you to be unstoppable.

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Award winning Talk Show Host Montel Williams speaks to Raven from the heart and shares a chilling experience he had 10 years ago when he “thought” he was having a heart attack. You’ll also hear Montel speak about the effect MS has on his body. The importance of not taking life for granted, Montel talks about the day he got fired over the telephone and how he was forced to take control of the situation and create a new opportunity for himself and shares why we should to start paying attention (focus) to our physical and psychological well being …..starting today!

Listen as Raven gets up close and personal with Life Coach and Award Winning Author, Deb Scott.  How Deb overcame the battles you may have experienced too.  Sexual Abuse, others’ alcoholism, family dysfunction, depression, an abusive relationship, care taking to death, and financial devastation.  Find out why you are only as sick as your secrets, and how the most difficult challenge you battle today can actually be a springboard to your most cherished celebration in your tomorrow.

This is a must listen to life changing combination of how to use your deep pain and turn it into positive productive power!

Listen NOW- Good Change is about to happen!

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5 Tips to Keep Your Peace

November 17, 2010 By Leave a Comment
 
 
 

Get Me Out of Here!

Are your days hectic, busy, and filled with unexpected obstacles to overcome? Do you feel like you need a break from the stress? Good news! You’re not alone in feeling the chaos, and now you won’t be alone in learning new ways to keep your peace.

Imagine you are an Olympic athlete walking on a balancing beam. You are deep in focus to perform your task perfectly on a three inch wide beam. You have practiced this move more times than you can count, and your confidence is strong. You begin your jump with focused momentum, when suddenly a loud distracting noise goes off in the stadium. The event surprises you, and captures your attention just long enough to cause you to lose a bit of your footing. You’ve trained tirelessly, and with anticipated interception to overcome an error in your landing, you quickly regain your balance to complete the move with majestic success. Congratulations! The applause from the crowd is only surpassed by the joy beaming out of your heart.

"I adjust my Balance Easily."

Maintaining your inner peace is a lot like that balancing act. You need to accept the unexpected is part of the process, and train yourself to successfully overcome the inevitable obstacles when they occur. You need to have the tools readily accessible to combat the confusion.

Here are 5 Terrific Tips to Keep Your Peace.

1. “What can I learn from this?”

One of the best ways to detach yourself from the emotional turmoil is to seek the solution in the problem. The gift of more peace may be wrapped in disguise. Is someone always criticizing you for never doing “it” good enough? Consider this as an opportunity to set better boundaries from negative people in your life. You may be able to learn how to practice letting go of this toxic personality in your life, which will help you avoid more of the same poisionous brand in the future. Always interrupt the disturbance with this thought, “What can I learn from this?”

2. Calling my rescue team!

Get into this habit, and practice it often. Ask for help from your spiritual rescue team. It doesn’t do you any good to have a million dollars in the bank if you don’t know it’s there, and you can’t enjoy the benefits of spiritual strength if you don’t ask your spiritual support team for assistance. Put the breaks on a chaotic encounter, or emotional disturbance, with a silent prayer for protection. God, your angels, the saints, family members who have passed on, they are all in your corner cheering you on to overcome any obstacle. Knowing you have a heaven sent support system at any moment you need, is a fail-safe security system. “Help!” is always a good start.

3. “What is my emotional temperature?”

Implement a new way of thinking which recognizes what comes out of someone else’s mouth is not necessarily the truth about you. The other person’s action igniting a reaction in you, is a good indicator of something YOU need to get healed. Consider the feeling of stress a temperature reading of your spiritual health. Are you way above normal? Feeling the fumes? Too hot to handle? Realize this awareness is a gift. Salt only hurts on an open wound, and if something hurts, that something in you needs to be healed. Awareness is key. A wound once healed is stronger than before, and the same came be true for you.

4. Practice Successful Sabotage

Set yourself up for success when the unavoidable storms hit you in the face. Hurricane winds may pass by you by, but they don’t have to uproot you if your deeply dug into solid ground. Sabotaging yourself for success is taking premeditated action to win the war against the battlefield of the mind. If you know your boss is going to be unreasonable during the day, make sure you have effective mind vitamins to counteract the negativity. Positive affirmations, favorite quotes, images which bring you peace, anything you know makes you feel happy and empowered should be strategically placed and readily available at your fingertips. Surround yourself with the fragrance of success. Breath in your ability to overcome any adversity. You are a champion!

5. Look for the humor in the horror.

Studies show laughter releases endorphins, which makes you feel good. Seeking solutions with a sense of humor will help you detach from the negative feelings, and open your mind to fresh choices. Sometimes the catastrophe can be the cure. If you have been seeking more quiet time alone, the fact your car broke down right after you ran out of gas, could be a unexpected opportunity to sit in silence while you wait for the tow truck. You can’t hear the kids screaming now! Laughter is a great medicine without any side effects. “Don’t take life too seriously, you’ll never get out alive.” Ebbert Hubbard.

The key to keeping your peace is having a solid, readily available, armamentarium to fight the peace killers successfully. Understanding you can’t stop the negative events, but you can stop their accompanying negative feelings from contaminating you further, is part of your winning equation.

Begin now. You’re worth the effort!

The Perfect Gift for You or Someone You Love...

Deb Scott, BA (Beta Beta Beta), CPC, is author of the award winning book changing lives, “The Sky is Green and The Grass is Blue - turning your upside down world right side up!” For more about Deb’s coaching, speaking, or radio show,  sign up for her mind vitamin newsletter now.

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Distorted Thinking Styles: Do You Wear One of These?

August 8, 2010 By 5 Comments
Your passion for fashion may be an attractive attribute in creating your personal style, but distorted thinking is a trend which needs to end now.
Do you suffer from distorted thinking?
What are the effects it is having on you?
Most important, how do you get rid of it if you have it?
 

Is Your View of You Distorted?

The conversations you have in your head are the most important meetings you will ever attend. Everything you say to yourself on the inside, is what you eventually express and manifest on the outside.
If you attract who you are, you must be very careful about what thoughts you allow to remain in your mind. Kill them before they have time to take root to grow a negative behavior.  Early diagnosis always accompanies a more positive prognosis.
Do you ever hear yourself saying something like:
  • “If my husband really cared about my happiness, he would take on more responsibility with the house and kids.”
  • “I feel like such a failure, I’ll never achieve my dream.”
  • “If I didn’t grow up in such a dysfunctional family, I wouldn’t be depressed.”
Good News! You are not alone if any of these examples sound vaguely familiar.  Little nasty voices of self-talk in your head, can be replaced.  You have the power!   
 
 
 

Self-Talk can be Transformed

You are only as sick as your secrets, so being aware this conversation exists, is the first step towards getting rid of it.
“The authors of the Relaxation and Stress Reduction Workbook note that this type of thinking is characterized by ‘repetitive and intrusive thoughts that are unrealistic, unproductive, and often anxiety producing.”
You may have had a belief system which functioned to keep you safe in “survival mode” when you were younger, but this formula is not a winning equation towards healthy living in your adulthood. In fact, it is destroying and blocking you from claiming your hearts desires! Get rid of it!

I Can Do This!

You need to be programmed positive in the present. Accept and understand the negative programming you got in the past, which you need to remove today, is not your fault you caught.  Reinforce by your family situations or societal expectations, you can rise above your problem thinking.
What are the effects of these negative thoughts? Self-doubt, fears, or even phobias. None of these are good, and this is just the short list!
OK – you don’t want to feel this negativity, which means you have to get rid of the thoughts which create them, so your behavior can change for the better.
The Fabulous Four Cure for Distorted Thinking:
1. Identify the negative emotion you are feeling
2. Identify the situation which triggered this emotion
3. Identify the distorted thought
4. Create the opposite emotion in the same situation with a kind thought.
3 I’s (Identify) + 1 C (Create) = The New Amazing Happy Me!

Happiness Island, Peace Beach, Serenity Sand

Let’s take one of the examples provided, and apply this cure for distorted thinking.  This will help you begin the transformation in becoming the magnificent happy person you were created to be.
“If I didn’t grow up in such a dysfunctional family, I wouldn’t be depressed.”
1. I am feeling angry, resentful, tense and stressed.
2. My daughter/son just told me I was a terrible mother/father because I wouldn’t let him/her stay out past midnight.
3. Because my child told me I was a terrible parent in that specific situation, I feel like my entire life of being a parent is a failure, which makes me feel even more depressed. This feeling reinforces the belief I have no hope of change because this feeling comes from my horrible childhood, which I can never go back to the past to make better.
4. There are many people who have had worse pasts than me, who are happy productive people today, living in healthy relationship with their families. I can be happier today because these past experiences have given me more compassion, better discernment, and deeper experience to make better choices in the present. These better choices I make, give me power to create the life I want. I am no longer a victim to other peoples behavior!
Practice this process with events and emotions which are easy to identify.  Like anything else, when repeated with practice, the more easy the process will become to apply in more complex situations.

Your New Theme Song!

Surround yourself in transformation. Associate with people who are seeking to accomplish the same change as you, and you will experience your positive results more quickly and efficiently.
Positive energy is a fragrance worth wearing everyday, for any and all occasions in your life.
No thought is ever final, no feeling an absolute fact. It’s all a process.
Your personal passion for positive fashion, never felt so fun! 
 
 

Because You're Worth It!

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The Scorpion Story – Are YOU Being Stung?

July 5, 2010 By 4 Comments

Are YOU being Stung?

I was speaking with a friend earlier today..

She was talking about the challenge of letting go of an unhealthy relationship in her life. A man she was contemplating have a long term relationship with. Sound familiar?

Despite the fact she had gotten “stung” by this guy in the past, she hesitated whether she should give him “one more chance.” Sound familiar?

“But he says this time will be different.” “But he says he recognizes the things he did in the past were not right.” “But he says he is going to change.” Sound familiar?

We have all been “stung” by people we opened our hearts to. People we thought really loved and cared about us. Yes, we have all been betrayed..

The question I think we must pose is this:
“Do I want to risk the pain of being let down
(AGAIN!)
because of my expectation of
what I WANT to be true VS what I KNOW to be true based on the ACTION FACTS.”

The Scorpion Story:

“There was a rabbit and a scorpion who wanted to get to the other side of the river. The scorpion told the rabbit, “Get on my back and I will carry you to safety to the other side of the river.” But the rabbit replied, “You are a scorpion, and I know you will sting me and kill me.” “Surely not.” replied the scorpion. “I have changed, and I too want to cross the river.”

So the rabbit believed what the scorpion said, and jumped on his back to cross the river.

One third across, safe. Half way across, safe. To the other side of the river, safe. The rabbit apologized to the scorpion he ever doubted the new revelation of conversion the scorpion expressed.

Suddenly, the scorpion stung and injected enough poison into the rabbit to kill it.

The rabbit replied in dismay, “Why did you sting to kill to me, we were safe on the other side of the river?”

The scorpion replied, “Because it’s in my nature. Why were you ever so foolish to believe otherwise.”

Don't Be Naive!

Yes, sometimes the people we meet who continue to hurt us just can’t, or won’t help themselves.

The question we need to ask is,
“Why do you trust the lie when you already have evidence of the truth?”

Pruning hurts, but we must cut away the dead branches to grow fully alive. We must give up the little bit of good, for great. We must accept people where they are, and give up the illusion of control we have to change them.

  • Who in your life is a scorpion?
  • Who in your life continues to sting you with poison regardless of the words they speak otherwise?You can only judge by the ACTIONS, because words are meaningless.

Another person may indeed have a serious problem. But if you continue to engage in these problems, YOU have a problem too!

Let go of the people who sting you in life, and watch the healing flow into your life.

Only when you are genuinely willing to let go, will you get the best you deserve.

You attract who you are. Keep the focus on yourself.

You’re worth the effort!

You're so Worth the Effort!

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Start Where You’re Standing

July 5, 2010 By Leave a Comment

(As seen in All Books Review International; Inspiration)

How many times have you said to yourself, “I’m going to do that when —- happens.” “I’ll be able to do that when I have —– amount of money.” “As soon as I finish —– I’ll start to do ——.”

Start Now!

What you probably don’t hear yourself saying is, “If I wait another day to begin my dream of ——, I may not have the good health, family support, and/or love of friends which I now I enjoy, to enable me to accomplish ———. I must not delay another day!”

Do you see the difference?

They key factor in getting your dreams, your goals accomplished, is starting in some way, large or small, right now where you stand. You must begin by beginning.

The goal you can control is to create motion in this moment. Make tangible the thoughts you envision, and your actions will provide all the momentum you need to give your inspirations life.

Here are six simple success tips, you can do right now where you stand.:

1. Write down your dream / goal.
2. List three steps you will need to complete to achieve this dream/goal.
3. Identify a mentor who has already accomplished this goal, or something similar to your goal.
4, Listen to one radio interview, or read one ezine with this mentor.
5. Make one phone call, or send one email/letter to accomplish one step in point #2.
6. Keep repeating.

You can literally do all six of these steps in under one hour, and never leave your house!

Your Feet are Your Friends to the End!

None of us is promised tomorrow. Don’t risk the opportunity to taste your delight today. The time is now.

Surrender your illusion “—-” is required to begin. Accepting you must start where you are already standing, is the very first step towards touching your dream in this moment.

Your feet are your faithful friends to the end!

Deb Scott is Author of the Award Winning Motivational Book How to Be Happy: “The Sky is Green and The Grass is Blue – turning your upside down world right side up!”
Available on Amazon.com, Barnes & Noble.com, Borders.com, and bookstores near you through Ingram Distributors.
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Happy Birthday America!

July 1, 2010 By Leave a Comment

Here we are, Fourth of July weekend 2010, another year older, the birthday of our country.

Happy Birthday America!

Like any annual birthday celebration, we join with special loved ones to share laughter and smiles. This is a magical gift, a truly unique life.

How do you express gratitude and appreciation for the irreplaceable person of mother, daughter, father, or friend? What thoughtful gift do you joyfully wrap and bring to the party?

The Birthday of America is no different.

A day set apart for you and me, to reflect and respect the gracious privilege to have experienced another year with her – The United States of America. Faithful to needs, desires, and dreams come true.

What tangible offering have you brought her? How much time did you take to find that special something which clearly reflects your deepest appreciation to know her? Are you a better person for having met her? Is she better for having met you?

America is beautiful because she gives me the opportunity to be the best person I was created to be. Under God, in the Land of the Free, one nation, one family, committed to lead.

Together I trust we can still pray enthusiastically for these.

Some would say they never truly appreciated something until it was gone. You may have felt the same when someone you loved passed from this life to the next. What more could you have done or said?

In God We Trust

America is a one-of-a-kind treasure, to be cherished, protected, respected and adored. This country is too brilliant and beautiful for anyone to ignore. She is a star for all to see, from sea to shinning sea.

This July 4th birthday, let’s not take her for granted. Let’s think of the gift we are bringing to her, to help her become the best she was created by our founding fathers to be.    

 
 

FOR, BY and OF the PEOPLE

This fourth of July, remember the many who came to live free or die for her. Those who gave up anything, to make sure you had everything.

Love is an action word worthy of your effort.

America the beautiful, dressed in dazzling red, white, and blue. Help me firmly protect, the lives still yet, who dream to express, “America the Beautiful – I too, love you.”

Happy Birthday America!

God Bless & Protect Our Troops

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Positive & Negative People – Are You Good Garnish?

June 13, 2010 By 2 Comments

Gotta’ love it!

That little jazz-of-pizzazz which delights the dish, sparkles the eyes with a surprise, and magnifies the meal in a moment. Yes, good garnish makes any ordinary dish extraordinarily spectacular in every possible way!

Good Garnish Makes the Dish!

Garnish - defined by Websters Dictionary is “to decorate (food) with something that adds color or flavor.”

This past week I was doing a radio show with host of the “Hatched Egg”, Amy Furbee, and we were talking about the issue of becoming who we associate with. Surrounding yourself with positive or negative people, definitely has an effect on YOU, whether you want it to or not.

Stand next to perfume or manure long enough,
and guess how you’ll soon be smelling?!

Suddenly, Amy interjected,

“It’s like my husband and I always say – “Is that person Good Garnish?”

Are YOU Good Garnish?

WOW! I love that analogy – because it resonates truth beyond compare.

The people you chose to associate with, are either good garnish in a true blue right side up world, or distasteful wilted garnish in a green sky upside down world. You must decide what you will allow by your side.

A little bit of garnish, possess a powerful impact on what the whole plate looks like. Think about how just a little piece of something, makes such an enormous difference on the larger portion. Doesn’t the concept make you pause and reflect?

Next time you feel agitated around someone, or perhaps just a little confused, ask yourself, “Is this person”Good Garnish”in my life?”

You may decide you need a different ornament decorating your sustenance. If you’re plate is already full, adding even the smallest sour flavor could be a major killer tipping point which destroys your whole meal.

Who is Good or Bad garnish in your life today? Are you Good Garnish for the people you meet?

You are what you eat. Bon appetite… and Cheers!

Bon Appetite & Cheers!

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